There is a beautiful chapter in the book, "Bang on the Door", by Sri Sri Ravi Shankar called "True Intimacy". I read that exactly when I needed to. It's amazing how God and Guru are there for you always. That knowledge was a savior for me. It's says that true love is disspassionate...it does not care how the other person feels, thinks or does. Even if the other person kicks you - there should still be compassion and dispassion. That is true love.
Jai Gurudev